Why are young men conditioned into thinking jail is normal?

Jim Crow is taking advantage of our ignorance in parenting: we are raising our children to grow up blind... their freedom will suffer

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I love the ideas behind this government, the freedom of any man being free. The irony is perhaps that although freedom is promoted it is easily stripped away. Once it is stripped away there is no getting it back either. Once you are marked as a criminal, a felon, you are that for life. 

You're a felon? So you cannot have a gun, you cannot vote, you can barely work, and NO you cannot rent on your own. A lot of our children do not know these conditions until they are a part of the category. We want to shield our children from the truth and encourage them to look at the brighter things in life. However, the government is flexing it's power and sucking them into a system that they have no idea about. How can you overcome or avoid something you were never really prepared for? 

Why is it that young men think that going to jail makes them a man? How can confining you in a cage possibly show how strong you are? Why is it that they do not care about getting arrested or having a record? We have to be accountable as a mother for educating our kids on things that maybe a father should. We need to have these conversations with them about jail, becoming a felon, having a record, and all the draw backs of being trapped in the system.

Reality is, slavery still does exist and far worse it is now legalized. The Jim Crow laws may have been dismantled but the backbone to those laws are hidden behind legalization and run throughout the jail system. Why is that the United States has only 5% of the World's population but 25% percent of it's prisoners? Why is it that 1 of 3 black men will spend time in prison? Those black men, were once black boys and they needed guidance. 

Instead they are locked up, caged, and than put to work for pennies on the dollar. Sound familiar right? Even when they are free they are never really free because their past is shackled to their future. They are released but set up for failure. Encouraged not to continue doing illegal activities but given slim to none alternatives. Because we are such nurturing, loving, women we do not want to explain this to our sons. However, it is necessary.

My son is aware of what jail is, he understands that it rips you away from your family and that it is a cage. He understands that if he ever goes to jail his rights will be taken away and he will be viewed as a second class citizen. I do not tell him this to make him scared, I tell him this to make him strong. I experienced a life without a father because he chose to let the streets turn him into a man. Jail ripped him away from me. I experience life without the person I love because he let a fast lifestyle kid him into thinking that jail would always be apart of his life. I can tell you from watching both encounters that they didn't know what jail was until it was too late. Don't let that be your child, educate them about the pretty, hurtful, and ugly truths of the world. Show them what jail is and the conditions the prisoners are in. Explain to them what freedom is and how it is not attainable being behind a cage. Explain to them what rights they lose because of jail. Explain to them the independence they lose in choosing a home, a job, going to school, etc. once they become a felon. I encourage you to grab some tissue and watch Netflix's 13th documentary that exposes you to America's jail system. 

The best teacher doesn't have to be life, it can be you. 

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Ex-offenders face legal restrictions on employment, they lack access to public social benefits and public housing, they are ineligible for many educational benefits, and they may lost parental rights. In many states, their criminal history is a matter of public record, readily searchable for anyone who wants to know.

Research on the lives of ex-offenders has consistently demonstrated they have difficulty finding jobs and a safe place to live, reconnecting with their friends and families, and making their way in a world where they are branded, often for life, by the stigma of a criminal conviction.
— Jeff Manza