"When it rains it pours... I can't ever catch a break... if it's not one thing, it's another." Growing up, these were terms we heard so often that we internalized them and allowed them into our own vocabulary. Just the other day, I caught a flat and without thinking, "if it's not one thing it's another." I had to catch myself mid-complaint and immediately started to look for tire shops in the area.
In our circles we've been programmed to complain and cry about the weight of a problem. So much so that we instantly push into a negative energy when something bad happens. Even if the solution is right in front of our faces. Have you ever spent days upset about something, than when you finally try and solve it... its solved quickly? We have to unlearn the instant action of looking at problems and letting them consume us. We have to learn that when a mistakes been made, it's okay to forgive yourself. Move on. We spend so much time upset about the opportunities we missed, the promotions we weren't given, the money we've lost. What does that do for us? Ok, you missed out. So now what? We have to push past the setbacks for solutions and most importantly forgive ourselves for any part we played in those setbacks.
When something difficult happens or you make a mistake, ask yourself:
- How can I solve this? How long will it take?
- What are the temporary set backs and how can I move around them?
- What resources or people do I have around me that can help?