If you never break down how can you heal? How can you grow? Don't let society's diluted misconceptions of what defines a mental illness stop you from breaking free of the mental chains dragging you down.
You need to see the woman you will become and not focus on the woman you are right now.
If you put him on child support than you have already done everything you can do. If he doesn't want to be a man than you’re not going to force him. If his ass isn't doing anything, he's a bum, and quite frankly child support can't make him or take anything away from him. Do not let yourself be beaten up over the fact that he still isn't doing anything.
Positivity Beaut. That's all you need to focus on and be surrounded by, anything else is unnecessary energy. A lot of times we have the misconception that negativity only comes from strangers or people that don't really understand us. Wrong. Sometimes that energy can come from the very people you love.
I can go online and see more articles of Kanye West ranting, 50 cent being petty, Chris Brown in legal trouble, etc. than I can of the good deeds these successful men have accomplished themselves. Our sons need to see beyond that, they need to know that what defines their success isn't based off getting drafted to a team or landing a major record label. If the day never comes, it's cool he got hell of other options.
If nothing else convinces you to set boundaries and not allow your partner to physically punish your child think of this... if your son came home telling you that daddy's girlfriend put hands on him for XYZ reason... are you going to turn into the woman in the above picture? Do you already have confirmed who is going to be bailing you out of jail? Exactly!
It's OK to mess up and just because you may have a minor set back by failing a school assignment, having to disciplining your baby, or you eff'd up at work; doesn't mean you fail in all other categories. You ARE still a rock star who happened to slip up. Learn from it and keep going.
I woke up one day with the realization that his father wouldn't fully commit to being a father if he wasn't with me. That hurt. The idea that if I lost myself and remained unhappy I could bring back my baby's family. It weighed down my soul every time I walked around and saw father's and mother's with their child. My child could not have that, ever again. He would not be able to see his father and mother defining unity because of my choice to choose to be happy.
It's so important to put your goals, self, and body into focus at the start of each day. As a mom I find it hard to direct my son and make him happy to start his day if I am not happy myself.